Coming to terms with our grief

I read with interest your article in the South Downs edition on the controversy of the churchyards in Storrington, Sullington and Pulborough.

Please do not blame our vicars, priests, etc for having to abide by the rules of the church, ours are very caring and sympathetic people. We all hate rules and regulations but we have to put up with them.

The landlords in the pubs take the blame for disallowing smoking too and everyone suffers.

I understand the feelings of these people concerned about their graves.

I grieve for my dearly loved family and friends in all three churchyards but do not care for what is above the ground.

What is deep down is what hurts.

I am very hurt that one of the graves in question is that of my mother-in-law whom I loved and respected for 24 years. She so loved the Downs and it was her wish to be buried as near as possible to them and her wish was granted in 1967, no rules and regs then.

She was then joined by her eldest daughter’s ashes in 1997 and her youngest daughter in 2011. Your paper mistakenly printed five years ago (to my knowledge no rules were broken).

To all those people who are grieving, say everyday slowly to yourself:

God grant me the sincerity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

It really has helped me come to terms with my grief and I hope it will help you too.

Memories are forever.


Cootham Brow, Storrington